What is the simplest way to start using Human Design in your parenting?
Before you get caught up in Type, Strategy, Authority, and beyond, you can start by learning to ask your children the type of questions they can answer.
We can easily divide kids into two categories based on the questions they respond best to open-ended or closed questions.
An open-ended question leaves room for exploration. These kids need to talk a bit before they find their answer. Yes, their inner Authority is what they use to make their decisions; however, if we’re not asking our kids the right style of questions for them to answer, they won’t get to access their inner Authority to know their truth because they will be caught up in the question and figuring out how they are supposed to respond.
Kids who respond best to this type of question have an undefined/open Sacral Center (Manifestors, Projectors, Reflectors)
Open-ended questions sound like questions such as:
What do you think is possible if…?
How would you do ____?
Where would you like to go?
What do you like to do?
I’m wondering what you think about _____.
I’m wondering how you feel about _____.
Closed questions give limited options. They take down the possibilities to just a couple of choices, such as yes or no, this or that.
Kids who need this style of question to respond to are kids who have a defined Sacral Center (Generators/Manifesting Generators).
This is their inner compass guiding them to the next right thing for them. And away from the things not right for them. This is sometimes their inner Authority also.
However, a lot of people with a defined Sacral Center have an Emotional Authority, which means that a quick yes or no from their Sacral is not their final answer for big decisions. Though the Sacral Center plays a part in the decision-making, they still need time to wait through their emotional wave to make a big decision.
Closed questions sound like questions such as these:
Do you want to go to the store with me?
Do you want tacos or pizza for dinner?
Do you like cheese on your broccoli?
Do you know where you want to go?
These questions can precede open-ended questions that help them engage their imagination, but you must first ensure the door is open to the conversation by getting them to engage.
If you get short no answers, annoyance, or meltdowns in return to your questions, consider if you need to go back in the line of questioning to a higher-level question. Do they need more information? Also, consider, are they tired? Overwhelmed? Hungry? Especially consider the fatigue and hunger if you’re asking questions about bigger decisions.
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